All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection.
An unacknowledged trauma is like a wound that never heals over and may start to bleed again at any time.
Child abuse is still sanctioned- indeed, held in high regard- in our society as long as it is defined as child-rearing. It is a tragic fact that parents beat their children in order to escape the emotions from how they were treated by their own parents.
Clinging uncritically to traditional ideas and beliefs often serves to obscure or deny real facts of our life history.
Contempt is the weapon of the weak and a defense against one's own despised and unwanted feelings.
Courage can be just as infectious as fear.
Disrespect is the weapon of the weak.
For the human soul is virtually indestructible, and its ability to rise from the ashes remains as long as the body draws breath.
Genuine feelings cannot be produced, nor can they be eradicated. We can only repress them, delude ourselves, and deceive our bodies. The body sticks to the facts.
Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.
I sincerely believe that we not only have the right to know what is good and what is evil; we have the duty to acquire that knowledge if we hope to assume responsibility for our own lives and those of our children. Only by knowing the truth can we be set free.
If a mother respects both herself and her child from his very first day onward, she will never need to teach him respect for others.
It is unlikely that someone could proclaim 'truths' that are counter to physical laws for very long (for example, that it is healthy for children to run around in bathing suits in winter and in fur coats in summer) without appearing ridiculous. But it is perfectly normal to speak of the necessity of striking and humiliating children and robbing them of their autonomy, at the same time using such high-sounding words as chastising, upbringing, and guiding onto the right path.
Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person. In other words, to learn from the child, we must have empathy, and empathy grows as we learn.
One of the best ways of keeping your temper in an argument, as most of us know only too well, is not to listen to anything the other person has to say.
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding.
Society chooses to disregard the mistreatment of children, judging it to be altogether normal because it is so commonplace.
The commandment to refrain from placing blame on our parents, deeply imprinted in us by our upbringing, skillfully performs the function of hiding essential truths from us.
The grandiose person is never really free; first because he is excessively dependent on admiration from others, and second, because his self-respect is dependent on qualities, functions, and achievements that can suddenly fail.
The more we idealize the past and refuse to acknowledge our childhood sufferings, the more we pass them on unconsciously to the next generation.
The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than with the fact that they were mistreated themselves and were not permitted to defend themselves.
The true opposite of depression is not gaiety or absence of pain, but vitality: the freedom to experience spontaneous feelings.
The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it.
The victimization of children is nowhere forbidden; what is forbidden is to write about it.
We can never do the right thing as long as we are out to please someone else.
We produce destructive people by the way we are treating them in childhood.
What is addiction, really? It is a sign, a signal, a symptom of distress. It is a language that tells us about a plight that must be understood.
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of a child.
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